A wife has revealed how turning her relationship polyamorous has been the best decision she ever made, claiming it has strengthened her bond with her husband and brought her the emotional and sexual fulfillment she had always desired.
Alice Lovegood, 29, from Bristol, UK, shared how she’d always felt there was something missing in her life, as she longed for deeper emotional and sexual connections with more than one person.
“I feel like I’ve always been polyamorous, but I never really understood what that meant or had a word for it, or that it was even a viable option,” Alice said. “Then I started to learn more about polyamory as an option, and finally identified with people so I spoke to my husband, and after we communicated we opened up to it.”
Alice and her husband, Matthew Lovegood, 32, had been together for nine years before they took the leap into polyamory. Last year, they decided to explore an open relationship after sitting down to discuss how they could navigate this new chapter of their relationship.
“We communicated openly about it, and we agreed that as long as we maintained communication, consent, and care, we could explore this together,” Alice explained. “I let my dating life flow naturally, meeting people I connect with rather than relying on dating apps.”
Initially, Matthew was reluctant to the idea of an open relationship, but he supported Alice’s desire to explore polyamory, and now, he is fully on board with their new lifestyle.
“Matthew was hesitant at first, but he was willing to support me, and now we’re both enjoying this new chapter,” Alice said. “We set boundaries in the beginning, like only having casual relationships and always using protection, which has helped us maintain a healthy and open dynamic.”
While their journey hasn’t been without its challenges, such as dealing with jealousy, Alice shared that these obstacles have only brought them closer together. She now views polyamory as a fundamental part of who she is and couldn’t imagine returning to a monogamous relationship.
“It’s put us in a position where we have to choose each other every single day, and we make an effort to nourish our connection and ensure we have quality time to communicate our feelings,” Alice explained. “When you’re in a poly situation, you don’t need someone to fulfill every part of you. You can have different needs met by different people, just like you would with friends.”
Alice admitted that for a long time, she thought something was wrong with her for desiring connections with multiple people. However, she now embraces this part of herself and believes polyamory is integral to her identity.
“I always felt a little bit like a caged bird, but we just slowly opened up and communicated through the process,” she said. “We’re raised in a monogamous society, and it’s difficult to understand how you feel about certain things until you experience them.”
As the couple became more comfortable in their polyamorous arrangement, they gradually reduced their boundaries, now having full autonomy over their decisions to be with others while continuing to communicate regularly.